As most of you know SAHMx2, Queen of Randomness and I have been friends for years. We are the best of friends and any one of us would fight ten buzz saws for the others. To be as close as we are we are so different in so many ways. But, when it comes down to how we actually handle stress and problems in our lives we are so alike its kinda scary. We handle it the same way: We don't discuss it until we absolutely have to. It's not like the other two don't know something is wrong it's just that we know if we discuss it there will be tears and emotions and really who has time for that in this day and age.
SAHMx2 will usually mention that something is bothering her but then make a light-hearted joke and move on to more important things like cleaning brownie batter out of her daughters hair or scrubbing toilets. You know, the important stuff. Then one day out of the blue she breaks a spoon and BAM!! she's crying about the spoon and we so know it's not really the spoon.
Q of R is a little different. Usually she will tell one of us what is going on but refuses to mention it to the other one. It's like she can't tell both of us in fear that it would make us both lopsided and at least one of us should stay sane at all times. When she does finally decide which one of us she is going to tell she will call crying so hard you can barley understand her, blurt what little details she is going to give you out so quick you have a hard time keeping up and then swear she really is fine and there is no need for any further discussion. The End!
Now to me. Well, the fact that I have stopped this post at least 20 times over the past year at this exact spot says more than my actual words ever could.
I am the one who backs away from every one else when it's all going south. My girls always know when I don't call, text or visit as much; I am not mad just taking time to keep my emotions in check. It's just how I'm wired I guess.
We all three have our quirks. It's not right. It's not wrong. It's just who we are and how we deal. Come Christmas when we have our little get together; we will eat a cheese ball, count our blessings to have one another in our lives and maybe just maybe talk about what is going on. Or you know, eat a little smokey wrapped in bacon, whatever is the easiest.